Item Detail
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"The Big Mistake" (Titled by Collector)
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3/5/2016
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685 Wymount Terrace Provo, Utah
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Male
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Sierra Vista, AZ
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Utah
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22
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Friend
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Provo
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LDS/Mormon
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Mac is a Senior at BYU studying Piano Performance. He enjoys working out, running, the TV Show Numbers, considers himself a music aficionado, and loves participating in choir. I met Mac because we attended the same church congregation first in our Freshmen year, and then in our Senior years.
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Mac's wife Janeen is also in my Folklore class. Both of them were in my ward before they got married, and so I figured they'd be the best place to start collecting. After all, Janeen would understand the struggle of finding good informants and items. We agreed to meet at their home in Provo, so I showed up on a Saturday night. They'd prepared a few extra cookies and treats for me, which I appreciated. We ended up sitting around a small wooden table in their kitchen, where first Janeen, and then Mac, shared their stories. Both were in the\rroom with each other.
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Scriptures and prayer in dating – Given the Mormon focus on families and eternal marriage, much thought and effort is put into any serious dating relationship. Including God in the relationship is considered an admirable or even desirable trait. As it is, many people feel like they have spiritual impressions and or promptings regarding the people they are dating.
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Break ups, dating, marriage, mistakes, scriptures and prayer
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So, I had dated this girl for about three months and I had known her for a couple of years before my mission, and, uh, got to the point where I didn't really see it going anywhere anymore, so, um, I had basically decided that I was going to break up with her, but I hadn't decided exactly, like, when or how, but she could kind of tell that I had stuff on my mind, and so, like, a day or two after I had decided\rthat she was, just asking me, like, what's wrong, blah blah blah blah blah. Uhhhhhhhhhhhh I don't know if we should keep dating. And, so just kinda, I came out and I hadn't really planned to say it, and I hadn't really set it up, and it was just …. So, as soon as I said that, she just like, shut off, and started crying, and said maybe like five more words, and then it was just like, just drove away, and I was like …. Ooooooohhhhhhh. So I went and talked to my roommates about what happened, and it was like, man, this sucks. But, and then I, so there was no closure cuz she didn't talk about it at all. SO I texted her the next morning, and was like, Hey, can we meet up tonight, and then like actually, talk about it a little bit. So we did, and that was awful, too, but. We, uh, yeah, basically just more of the same, but she was able to talk about it a little bit, at least, and, since I hadn't really thought about it that much I hadn't, like, formulated my thoughts very\rclearly, and she was like, well, usually if you break up with someone, you have a reason, and so, I do, it's just hard for me to articulate it, so. Yeah. And then, that was that. And it was really, like, even after the second conversation, it was still just like, aw, man. Since I was the one who just broke up with her, and, yeah, it was just, I felt really bad. At the same time, I knew that it was what I needed to do, so. And looking back on it now, it's still, like, I still have, like, I don't know if you'd call it PTSD about it, it still, like, those feelings are still kind of there, it's just that … But if I hadn't broken up with her then, then I probably wouldn't have gone on a date with Janeen, like, three weeks later. So … who knows what would have happened there? But, yeah. That's it.
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Zachary
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Strickland
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Male
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23
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ENGL 392
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Eric A. Eliason