Item Detail
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"I Hated Valentine's Day" (Titled by Collector)
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3/12/2016
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BYU: Tanner Building: Blue Line Deli Provo, Utah
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Female
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SLC, UT
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West Valley, UT
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26
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Friend
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LDS/Mormon
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Heather graduated from USU in 2012, earning her Elementary Education major. She really enjoys Just Dance 2014 and going out for country dancing. I met Heather while she was dating Nathan, her husband, who was in my church congregation at the time.
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I met Nathan back in our Freshmen year, before we served our respective missions. Three years later, we ended up in the same church congregation, where he'd already met his wife Heather. He left our apartment complex at the end of that semester for the wedding. I ran into Nathan and Heather while we were all on dates at Café Rio, where I asked them if they would be willing to be interviewed. A few weeks after that, we three agreed to meet on a Saturday morning at the Blue Line Deli. First Nathan, then Heather, shared their stories. Nathan's story was very long, and so he told Heather\rto keep hers shorter.
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Ward – In Mormon terminology, a ward is a church congregation. Ward boundaries are set based on geographic proximity.\rFamily Home Evening – Mormon families are encouraged to set aside one night of the week to focus on each other and their familial bonds. Activities generally include some spiritual enlightenment and games, though this is left to the discretion of the individual families. When young single adults who belong to the Mormon faith move away from home, they are encouraged to participate in Family Home Evening in groups their church leaders organize. A proxy ‘Mom' and a proxy ‘Dad' from among the group of peers are chosen to lead and run the weekly event.\rPity Date – While dates are traditionally seen as romantic gestures, some dates are considered ‘pity' dates, wherein the guy asks the girl (or the girl accepts from the guy) just because they feel sorry for the other person, and not because they have any genuine interest.\rInstitute – Institute is a weekly activity run by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Young single adults and married couples are encouraged to take classes relating to church topics, and food is often provided afterward.
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Breakups, dating, marriage, institute, pity date
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Ok, um, so I was in college, and, there was this guy in my ward, we'll call him Fred, that we when on several dates, and I was very interested, and then he, like, backed off, and, uh, then at a Family Home Evening, this other guy named Bob, um, he was, I was talking about how I hated Valentine's Day, because it was coming up, and he was like, Why, cuz you're always Single? And I was like, Yeah, thanks, and he felt bad, so he asked me out. And, um, and I thought it was just a pity date, I didn't think he was interested at all, and, uh, so we went out, and I just left it at that, and then I heard from one of our mutual friends that he was interested, but he knew I was interested in Fred so he wasn't going to ask me out. Fred wasn't doing anything, and so I encouraged Bob instead, and we started dating, like, in three or four weeks maybe?\rMaybe. I don't even remember. And then, one day we were going to go to an institute activity together, and he asked if we could go early so we could walk and talk and stuff, and I was like, Ok, and I, right then I knew something was up, cuz, just, I don't know. Woman's intuition, maybe. And, he didn't hold my hand on the way up, and I was like, this is weird. We always held hands. And, um, so we got to the institute building, and we sat on the couch, and he told me, that, he thought we should back off for a while and whatever, and so this was right before the activity we were going to, and so I was like, trying to not cry, and I went to the bathroom and cried for a little bit, and then I was done, and then, uh, so we went to the activity together, I pretended everything was normal, and then we walked home, and, we still, like, we had been planning to go to this concert, so we went to the concert, it was super awkward, and, then we were planning on riding horses over spring\rbreak, and we still did that, and it was super awkward, and then, uh, one Sunday, we went to church, we were in the same ward, like I said, and uh, I was like should I sit by him, should I not, I didn't, like, know where we were, and, then, after church, we walked home, and he broke up with me officially. So, it was, kind of a long, stretched-out breakup, yeah. And I, had a good cry, had some good friends that came over and I sat in between them and cuddled both of them and felt much better and then I felt … And then afterward, I was like, Why did I even date him, like, we weren't, he's a good guy, but, yeah, we weren't a good match at all, and, and then later, when I found out he'd broken up with me for his ex-girlfriend, that made me feel crummy again. But, better that I wasn't with him. Ta-da!
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Zachary
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Strickland
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Male
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23
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ENGL 392
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Eric A. Eliason